YASS! Let’s talk about this controversial topic, is it even controversial? Anyways these days it seems as though sex is becoming the order of the day, some guys will tell you they can’t date a girl who won’t have sex with them…hmmm…I blame society that makes guys feel like they are entitled to sex even when they aren’t married.
Sex is now so cheap, it’s so easy to come by and I’m not even talking about getting it from commercial sex workers, I’m talking about regular babes who feel the need to have sex to keep a guy or simply to get his attention. It’s so annoying when girls feel they need to sleep with a guy just to keep him, like if you don’t have sex with him he would go out and get it somewhere else then let him!
Society is to blame mostly because they have put so much pressure on women, they make it okay for guys to sleep with several girls but if a girl does the same she’s a whore??? Urm guys are sluts too! Because I don’t know where it’s ever okay to sleep with several girls and be considered a ‘bad guy’, I personally do not like guys like this, I can’t even be attracted to them because they disgust me(Although when I was younger and foolish I was attracted to a few of them).
Pre-marital sex is wrong for both men and women, no one has any special prerogative to it, I don’t care if you have been together for 10 years, if he wants to have sex so badly let him put a ring on it. Now people would say we do everything except have sex…errrrr hold up! All those other things kor? The smooching, the touching etc, and even oral sex there’s a reason why there is sex behind it oo lol they didn’t call it oral sensation lmao, anyways I’m guilty of this too, I’m going to be real honest.
Sometimes we feel like we just have to do something, that it’s impossible not to do anything but let me tell you it’s very possible! it’s all about having the love of God in your heart, so many of us would claim we love God but please read John 14:15 it says ‘If ye love me, keep my commandments’ and God has told us fornication is prohibited so how can we love him but yet be getting down every other day??? It’s just like your boyfriend saying he loves you but cheats on you in your face and doesn’t even care to hide it, abeg what kind of love is that? I always say I love God, I love God, but then I asked myself, does my character really reflect this love I claim to have?
You might think I’ve started, it’s impossible to stop, the urges bla bla bla, please it is very possible to stop; The first step is making the decision, second step is asking our only ultimate helper Jesus Christ for help and the third is continually avoid or should I say FLEE from temptations! When that girl/guy says you should hang out in a place where you would be alone or asks you to come over abeg DO NOT GO! Don’t say I can control it, my dear you cannot control it ooo that’s why God said we should flee in the first place because your emotions/body will definitely get the best of you, trust me I have been there, done that and I can tell you, you can’t trust yourself!
If you must hang with that person that you’re attracted to at least let it be in a public place, a very public place, don’t answer when he/she says lets ‘chill’ in the car for a bit, that’s even the worst.
With the help of God it’s very possible to save yourself for marriage and it’s not just about saving it for that special someone it’s because of the love and fear of God, it shows reverence to His commandments. At the end of the day there are so many downsides to having pre-marital sex, it only leads to trouble like STDs, unwanted pregnancies, abortion, heart-break, depression etc. I might be sounding judgemental but really I’m not, I hate being judged so I wouldn’t judge anyone, this is more like an advice in fact I’m advising myself too as I write this lol.
The moral compass of youths these days is degrading, it’s almost like no one cares anymore, everyone is shouting “we’ve got one life to live” but should we now live it in a sinful way? Is that how to live to the fullest by being reckless? How about living a purpose filled life? A life constantly conscious of the presence of God, I tell you that’s the best kind ever, you will feel fulfilled, I’m very much a work in progress, this might sound cliché but it’s true, I write this from my personal experience and from true life stories. So let’s try it now! Start living for God!!