“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” Proverbs 4:23 New Living Translation
There’s a reason why the Bible says guard your heart above everything else, it affects your entire life! I have come to realise that “being in love” or “catching feelings” affects your life decisions; I have experienced this first hand. When I start falling for someone, I start compromising, I get caught up in the moment. We have to realize that sometimes falling for the wrong person pulls you away from God whether you realize it or not. You’re so entangled in your emotions you don’t realize you’re not reading your Bible as much, not spending quality time with God, etc.
Although, there are many ways in which the heart can get corrupted, the most common way is through developing feelings for the wrong people.
If you’re not with the person, your mind is replaying scenes of moments you have spent with the person, you want to talk to the person as often as you can and most times without realizing, you push God to a small corner of your life.
Guarding your heart isn’t just about using your head, it is also about preventing even falling for the wrong person. Once you know the feelings might jeopardize or affect your relationship with God in any negative way, DETACH! At this point, you can still be objective, if you have to cut of the relationship completely, DO IT.
Our God is a jealous GOD and if you will put Him second on your priority list, He might also place you last on His lol.
I recently started liking someone and right from when we started talking, I knew he wasn’t so sensitive in his relationship with God but I thought I could keep it platonic, as the relationship progressed I realized that I was also being affected. I had to completely cut him off; did it hurt? Yes, Do I miss him? Of course, sometimes; but you know what? It doesn’t matter. Even though I had started developing feelings, I cut it off before the feelings grew, my only wish is that I should have done it way earlier then maybe we would still be acquaintances but now things are awkward and I lost a friend lol.
Most importantly, I have gotten rid of a distraction (for lack of a better word). Love is a beautiful thing, relationships are very beautiful too but if it’s not going to lead to a godly marriage, please don’t indulge. It sucks to wait sometimes, you long for that intimacy, especially when reading love stories or seeing people in love; but our God makes everything beautiful in His own time. Waiting develops patience and enables you develop your character, makes you independent so you will be a blessing to whomever you end up with. Think about it, what do you have to bring to a relationship apart from love and kisses lol, what else do you have to offer? If you don’t have a long list you might want to re-consider getting into a romantic relationship and focus on being in a relationship with God.
“Keep and Guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard, for out of it flow the springs of life” Amplified version
Yes it’s easier said than done, trust me I know, but it needs to happen. The fact that the Bible says “above everything else guard your heart” just emphasizes how important it is that we are mindful of where we put our hearts. Whether you like it or not, your heart will control your mind and your thinking when you’re into someone. You would do the dumbest things just because it involves that person and sometimes you make life changing decisions. At the end it takes the grace of God, we can’t do it on our own but we also must be willing and deliberate.
Evaluate your heart today, don’t go and be catching feelings anyhow abeg lol, God loves you too much for that.
2 Chronicles 16:9 says “For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him…” is your heart loyal to God? Would you sacrifice everything for God?